T loved E and he put in some effort in romancing her.E is a lover of architecture and had on numerous occasions mentioned to T that she loves the structures in Amsterdam. It was special that T had remembered her love for Amsterdam architecture but she expected at the very least flowers to come with the gift.She felt he did not need to get her small thoughtful gifts or constantly remind her of his love for her.
It is a pity I cannot write a longer article because I have plenty of stories and views an on this subject.
I will only narrate those that immediately come to my mind as I go along.
I remember him adding a little bit more to my mom’s grocery money every month so that she buys something nice for herself.
My mother was and is a working woman with a steady job but my father continued to do so throughout. I remember my mother telling me that my father always volunteered to change poopy nappies (no diapers in those days) when we were babies.
Even if a supposedly romantic evening is going well it is not unheard of for both parties to share the bill.
Perhaps I am old-fashioned but I cannot see or feel any expression of love or affection in this scenario.
She would rather he did not because she would rather use that time concentrating heavily on her work or activity instead of listening to an overly sensitive(her words) and emotional man. According to K there is a time and place for everything.
She would rather appreciate it if he called her to make an appointment (afspraak) for a date.
It concluded that her previous relationships with Dutch men were casual, practical and more impersonal.
She simply could not cope with a man opening the door for her and pulling out chairs for her because, in her view, she is not helpless and unable to do so herself.
A man who can keep his woman or women happy was well respected.