He realizes the problem is his, but still does not manage to get rid of these thoughts.
Recent findings from our lab comparing people with ROCD, people with other forms of OCD, and people with no known OCD diagnosis showed similar levels of interference in functioning, distress, resistance attempts, and degree of perceived control due to symptoms in both the ROCD and OCD groups.
These findings suggest ROCD symptoms may be as disabling as other forms of OCD.
People like Evelyn with relationship-centered obsessions often feel overwhelmed by doubts and worries focused on their feelings towards their partner, their partner’s feelings towards them, and the “rightness” of the relationship experience. Relationship-centered and partner-focused symptoms can often happen at the same time, and sometimes can even reinforce one another.
Many people describe being preoccupied with a perceived flaw of their partner (e.g., body proportion) at first, and then being plagued by thoughts about the rightness of the relationship.
As can be seen in the above examples, this form of OCD often leads to severe personal and relationship distress and often impairs functioning in other areas of life, such as work, study, or family functioning.
It is common for people to have some doubts about the suitability of their partner or the relationship at some point during their romantic connection.
ROCD symptoms can also occur outside of an ongoing romantic relationship (e.g., obsessing about the past) and may cause people to avoid entering relationships altogether.
Interestingly, ROCD symptoms were not found to relate to relationship length or gender.
He also thinks his wife, an IT consultant, is very intelligent. He can’t stop thinking that he could have found a better partner.