It’s one thing not having time to go out in public as a couple, but the fact that nobody in his life seems to know we’re a couple kind of puts it in a different light. I do really like him, we have a really great time together and he always seems so attentive whenever we can’t physically be together, but maybe I’m just seeing what I want to see? The first issue is a valid one and you have every right to consider whether you’re getting your emotional needs met right now.
The second one is just an ego/insecurity thing and should not derail an otherwise strong relationship.
(This is another “Bobbi’s right”, fifty-year-old guys hate that type of stuff.) A woman who will initiate a few ‘how’s your day going? His frustration and his feelings of helplessness and inadequacy? When I knocked down that wall, and learned some new things, my heart opened and my love came into my life. He wants to help us all make better human connections!
And most of all, open you up to guys like LM who may not dazzle you on a date, but would make a fantastic partner or husband. He also took a lot of my advice about how to attract better quality women…and THAT he did! Do you see yourself or anyone you know in LMs description of the women he’s meeting?
Good guys like LM are out there just looking for a wonderful woman just like you…just let down your wall and loving things will happen! Would you email him if you knew what you know about him now? And SHARE THIS with your friends via Facebook, Pinterest, etc.
After all: most things in your dating life can be worked on and improved upon, but the cold hard truth is that some aspects are set in stone. and there are few other aspects that cause men as much dating agita as being short.
If you’re not 6 feet tall or taller, then you may as well just resign yourself to a sexless life of Napoleon jokes.
Whatever it is, apparently I don’t have enough of it. In thinking about it, I’m not even sure when they say that, it’s the real issue.
These women have been emotionally abused, disappointed, betrayed and they are just so hard-wired to not get hurt again. By setting unattainable standards (fantasy man) they ensure they will never again let somebody close enough to them to hurt them again.
BTW, since this article was first published, LM has met a lovely woman and is enjoying a great relationship with her.
Short men are screwed when it comes to dating, right?
I’m not fully convinced, however, that your relationship is strong.
First of all, kudos to you for a few reasons: you’re self-aware – you’re trying to be cool, patient, and nurturing – and you’ve internalized the lessons of “Why He Disappeared.” But one of the key points in “Why He Disappeared” is that you can do everything PERFECTLY, but if the guy is not in the right place to give, there’s nothing you can do. Listen, I’m no single father, but I’ve had many clients who are single parents and are torn in a million directions. So what it really comes down to is this: are you satisfied with what your boyfriend can give to you?
Bobbi brings up things I would never have thought of.