But just because we are scared of it doesn’t mean we don’t want it.
Take it easy and let him decide when he is ready to commit.
If your date becomes your boyfriend then there will be plenty of opportunities for both of you to let your hair down.
But a guy will most likely be a little scared if you knock back a few shots before dinner.
He will want his own space and really appreciate you if you give it to him.
A final note – Commitment scares the hell out of us.
Retain a bit of mystery and avoid sending him a friend request until you’ve got to know each other better. Pay attention to the introductions – We guys are extremely territorial (even though we may not know it) and once we’ve come to the conclusion that this is the woman we want, we’ll start saying things like “This is my girlfriend, Sarah”.
Once he has started calling you his girlfriend, babe, woman, or even his other half, he won’t stop.
He has laid all his cards on the table without even realising it.
Now you know he’s taking this thing seriously and you can probably stop calling it dating and start using the word relationship.
Think carefully about inviting us back after a first date – Yes, we might well ask you but that doesn’t necessarily mean we want you to say yes.
A kiss on your doorstep is enough to reassure us that you are interested but if you invite us in for the night we will start to wonder if this happens to every guy you date.
Figuring out what is going on in a guy’s mind in the first few weeks of dating would really help a woman feel more assured, knowing that she is in control of the situation.