It so happens that that is often done via what a relationship and its problems has to teach them. If we say there is, then we deprive people of learning, and hopefully communicating, about how they really feel and also to work through the relationship outside of its imposed rules, which is where two people have the greatest opportunity to come together in honesty as human beings.If that happens, one is much better equipped to decide whether he or she is with the right person.
More than 40 percent of millenials think marriage is “becoming obsolete” (compared to 43 percent of Gen Xers, 35 percent of baby boomers, and 32 percent of people aged 65-plus).
And almost half of millenials say they view changes in family structures positively, compared to only a quarter of elderly respondents.
In some cases this may even be the stated purpose: partners (one or both) may openly proclaim that they want to see other people to relieve emotional or sexual frustration, and/or to reassure themselves that their partners are truly the ones they want to be with.
(This is a common justification offered for adultery, and to be fair a temporary separation is a more honest way to go about it.) But in either case, this goes deeper than the complaints of "I just can't stand him [or her] anymore" described in the article. Casually going out for dinner and a movie with someone is one thing, but intimacy—however you want to define it, whether emotional, physical or both—is another.
Even among married couples, open relationships can be successful; some studies suggest they’re common in gay marriages.
For today’s 20- and 30-somethings, these trends are meaningful.We were committed to each other, referred to each other as boyfriend and girlfriend, and were both allowed to date and be physically intimate with other people.We eventually broke up (for various reasons, most of which weren’t related to our openness), but since then I’ve remained interested in rethinking relationships—and it turns out I’m not alone.---------- You can follow me on Twitter and also at the following blogs: Economics and Ethics, The Comics Professor, and The Literary Table.What about responsibility to disclose the 'break' to the 'other'?Several years ago, I decided to challenge the idea that the only way to a loving, committed relationship was to be monogamous.