We've done this secretly, because we're aware that many people would take a very dim view of our plans. Perhaps the best way to approach it is by answering your last question first.
Your second cousin once removed is the child (or parent) of your second cousin.
And your first cousin twice removed is the grandchild (or grandparent) of your first cousin.
If you feel it would be helpful to discuss your situation with a member of our staff, Focus on the Family has a team of professional counselors available who would be happy to speak with you over the phone.
They can also provide you with referrals to qualified therapists practicing in your area.
The term "removed" refers to the number of generations separating the cousins themselves.
So your first cousin once removed is the child (or parent) of your first cousin.
Clearly, it doesn't take many generations before your family tree is a bit unwieldy.
Case in point: Last year it was revealed that vice president Dick Cheney and presidential hopeful Barack Obama are eighth cousins.
Whatever you decide, you can be pretty sure of one thing: your choice in the state where you reside.
Approximately half of the states permit first cousin marriage either without restrictions or under certain specified circumstances; in all others it is against the law.
Family reunions are often filled with confused people scratching their heads, ticking off fingers and mumbling, "If my mother's aunt was her father's grandmother, then that makes us…" If you can't keep your third cousins and your first cousins twice removed straight, you are not alone.