As you probably have gathered by now, the human Sexual Operating System is a big subject that these first two articles have only begun to explore. Russer is a prostate cancer survivor who was left completely impotent as a result of his treatments.Next week I’m going to cover “Making Love with an Upgraded Sexual Operating System” that will share some of the methods my partner and I have to achieve extraordinary levels of intimacy. Yet, it was because of his impotence that he and his partner discovered an entirely new approach to emotional, physical and spiritual intimacy that far exceeds anything either experienced prior to when things were working "correctly." His mission is to help men, women and couples everywhere to achieve extraordinary intimacy on all levels.You can stumble in to a date unprepared and racked with nerves, or you can plan ahead and remove a lot of the unnecessary stress that comes with the initial phase of the mating dance. As in, “Hey, you seem really interesting and it seems like we would get along quite well. I’d love to take you on a date one of these nights.”If you are honest with yourself and your date about what your intentions are then you can leave all of the brain-clogging “Is this a date? Have a plan, have back up plans, and have alternate plans.
This week is all about how to upgrade your Sexual Operating System so your intimate relationship is the source of lifelong fulfillment and satisfaction, for you and your partner. This is thanks to our built-in instinctive procreative imperative which is driven by base survival needs within Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Think of awareness as the “interrupt” to the unconscious programming of the S. And in that space you may briefly glimpse what it means to be fully self-actualized and transcend your day to day experience. actually prevents this from happening and that is the fundamental source of relationship breakdown. Here’s what we did: The above represent the non-gender-specific, S. This made it easier for me to focus on, and be fully present for, my partner and to slow way down so she has adequate time to warm up.
will doom them to eventual relationship failure, or at best, an unfulfilling life together if left unchecked. This means that at some level, most relationship behavior is unconsciously reactive. The details of which are covered extensively in the previous article. that allows you to insert new, more empowering, “code.” The next step is being very clear about what you really want out of your intimate relationship and Being in a great intimate relationship can be one of the most profound experiences that a human being can have. You are authentically and vulnerably sharing your most intimate thoughts, feelings and experiences with a partner who is doing the same with you. As a fully impotent male (yep, can’t get it up to save my life), my S. For example, I no longer have a sense of urgency that comes over most men when they have an erection.
There is a trend right now to play the cool card up front and leave it ambiguous as to whether or not it’s officially a date (as in “Hey, want to grab coffee sometime? Your date turns out to be really boring and uninspiring?
Downgrade by cutting the date off after drinks, offering a ride home if you have a car and they don’t, but don’t offer false hope if you don’t want to pursue this further.
dating can be awkward and nerve-racking, especially when it comes to first dates.
The two of you arrange to meet in a public setting to casually feel each other out and see if you want to continue spending more time with each other past the original meeting. If you know that you want it to be a date then call it a date. The old saying “Expect the best, but prepare for the worst” applies here.
If they don’t accept a ride, you can guess that they were uninspired with you as well!
Your date turns out to be one of the most interesting people you’ve ever met and your conversational chemistry is off the charts?
Last week I wrote an article about how nearly every adult on the planet is deeply influenced by what I call the human Sexual Operating System (S. And they want it as much and frequently as possible. What I’m about to share with you is what it took for my partner and I to upgrade our respective S. What I recommend to other men on this is very straightforward: get rid of the baby-batter before you have your intimate sessions. Once you experience the extraordinary difference in outcome, you can go back to allowing yourself to be hard at the get go, only now with the requisite restraint necessary to consistently achieve these heightened results. However, it has been my personal experience that the ultimate experience is creating a “space” for my partner that is most conducive to releasing full sensual potential.
This is a system so powerful it affects who we choose as a mate, how we interact with them, and whether or not the relationship will last. I may be going out on a limb here, but I am proposing that when intimacy becomes the gateway to this highest form of human experience, this is what most people seek from their life partner relationship—whether they are fully conscious of this need or not. So if you are with me so far and would like to explore what it takes to achieve this highest state within your relationship and have it continue to grow and blossom over time, read on. And in so doing helped us and I achieve levels of emotional, physical and even spiritual intimacy beyond what is conventionally (within the context of a typical S. So if you are the kind of guy that can get hard just thinking about a pretty woman, this can be a bit of a hurdle to overcome. makes us think and feel that our ultimate sexual experience is release through climax and ejaculation (remember the procreative imperative).
Upgrade your date by going to the next, more intimate stage of the date that you had planned (going to an art class, dessert bar, or romantic lookout point).