Second, parents expected a new romantic partner to help firm up the hierarchy in the family, putting the children back in their place and mom or dad back to being less of a child’s friend and more a parent with rules and expectations.
Hadfield figures that no matter how difficult it can seem, it is likely better for kids to still have contact with their parents’ romantic partners even after the romance ends.
Of course, this all depends on the strength of the relationship, the age of the child, and dozens of other factors.
As far as entering new romantic relationships when you’re a parent, there seem to be two competing ideas about how to handle telling the kids.
Many parents prefer not to tell their children about their new relationship until it becomes more serious, usually after a few months.
When it works out, the kids benefit from having more adults in their lives.
But what happens, as so often does, when the relationship breaks down?In general, though, if the kid and the ex-partner were close, then parents should do what they can to make it easy for their child to stay connected.In truth, most ex-lovers are not going to want the contact.Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern of serial romantic relationships among friends who are dating online.They meet, and a few months later, introduce their new partner to their kids.For example, Hadfield found that custodial parents wanted their new partners to take on a parenting role with their children, as well as being the parent's romantic partner.