Learn to make a wise choice of a spouse, and how to start prepar Does marriage matter anymore?If so, is it even possible to have a stable marriage? Is there anything to work on now, even before being in a relationship?
For the single person, this book is a gold mine for areas that may not be on the radar (or that are being ignored because singleness is an area of struggle and weakness).
This book is first, and most importantly, about becoming the spouse God intends His people to be.
He shows how the culture says “let your heart be your guide” while scripture teaches us to “watch over your heart with all diligence for from it flow the springs of life“ (Proverbs ).
Ultimately, when we follow our deceitful hearts (Jeremiah 17:9) in attraction, we can easily fall into worship the following heart idols: control, pleasure, keeping people happy, success, material things, money, and comfort.
Too many times Christian couples (myself included) simply follow the world’s standards on finding a spouse without every questioning what the bible teaches.
Baker humbly states his opinion on how a spouse should be found, but he emphasizes being a godly person in search of a godly spouse using biblical wisdom more than any specific method.
Section 1 teaches the foundations of pursuing a spouse, but section 2 is where the highlighter and the notepad should definitely come for singles who are ready to use their singleness for God’s glory.
Baker gives some very wise (and fatherly) teaching on how singles can live wisely, use wisdom in relationships, make wise choices about when to marry, and to discern that God’s providence is trustworthy.
The main principle running throughout the book is to pursue wisdom by fearing the Lord above a specific method.