Dating is the path to love -- and that path, as we know, can be a minefield. "You're going to go through a lot of people, until you find someone where there is some kinetic thing, some magnetism, some desire to know more," says Pepper Schwartz, Ph D, a sociologist at the University of Washington in Seattle.
You also must be proactive to protect yourself against romantic con artists, whom you may meet online or offline.
It makes headline news when a single woman is scammed out of her life savings by a man she just met.
I explain that the risks of online dating are significantly diminished by built-in safeguards and guidelines used in most online dating sites.
For example, you create a screen name to protect your identity, and you don’t reveal your private contact information until you’ve emailed or chatted by video, talked on the phone and met for coffee in a public place.
Hitchhikers, rocket scientists, even nuns probably do it, at least once. Then there are other dangers -- boredom, disillusionment, getting dumped, or simply getting taken.
The topic is dating, and the custom is as old as Adam and Eve. Two love experts offer their dating advice: Face it; finding a great mate takes some research.
"Especially when children are involved, you want to make sure you're doing the right thing." In fact, he advises hiring a private investigator when getting involved with someone new. Then after they're snookered, they feel so silly, so embarrassed about what happened." His dating advice: "You can't change the spots on a leopard." A date isn't a therapy session; don't ramble about lost loves or your personal problems too much, Falzone says.
At the beginning, your dates don't need to know about your insecurities, your dead-end job, your failed relationships, he says.
It's one thing to show depth of character, but revealing inner demons can be a turn-off.