"A relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other" puts marriage on the table when the couple have not yet committed to such an end.
This is no different than dating when two people get too intimate too fast (I do not mean sexually) and give away a piece of their heart. I am now married to a wonderful Christian man and we have 4 children.
Dating tries to answer the question, In a dating relationship, there is little if any accountability for the couple and little or no interaction with family members.
A courting couple can evade numerous temptations by the choice to be held accountable to God-given authorities.
The dangers of defrauding can be avoided more successfully, and an honest, open friendship can be nurtured and protected. Since one of the most important decisions we will make is the decision of marriage, we should make every effort to know and do God’s will in this area.
As they establish guidelines for their relationship, they can more easily recognize that God also holds them responsible to honor one another.
Receiving God’s grace and the support of others strengthens them to maintain their commitment to purity.
This oblivious self-centeredness can lead only to dissatisfaction, promoting an attitude of lust (taking what I want) rather than the Scriptural attitude of love (giving unselfishly to others).
Consequently, dating opens the door to many temptations.
If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.
On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.
When you only are allowed to get to know someone with your parents or a chaperone present, you get to know the Sunday best of the person.
This is in many cases, a very dangerous practice disguised as a perfect formula for a happy and successful marriage.
A dating relationship is usually based only on what the dating couple presently knows about each other.