Hopefully, you have a few close friends who’ll try to understand your new lifestyle. So if you can’t remain true, forget the whole thing and move on with your lives. Then, after falling in love with a medic, this changed, and it really caught me off gaurd. Certain movies, television shows and video games were suddenly off limits in my house, because they disturbed him or gave me nightmares. This is true of any relationship, but it can mean so much more to a soldier. His name is Eric, we’ve been together for almost 2 years and I’ve known he wanted to become a solder since the day we started dating. But I feel like the Army doesn’t care about the girlfriends, only the wives and children of the soldiers. I’m proud of my soldier and I tell him that in every letter.
I was watching an episode, and suddenly, it hit me harder than it ever had before. Get ready to make concessions in this department, for his comfort and for your own mental well-being. Be it baking him a batch of cookies to take back to base, writing him a letter (snail-mail) every week or even every day he’s overseas, or simply shrugging it off when he has to cancel a date last minute because he just found out he’s got an early call the next morning, doing little things that may seem insignificant to you will matter so much to him. When we first got together, I was very skeptical about dating a guy who was going to leave me to start his career. It is my understanding that if something were to happen to me (heaven forbid), he wouldn’t even know about it until someone wrote to him. I joined this site because no one I know understands how hard this is. ***** Hey to everyone my name is Perrie or Perrie Leigh which ever u prefer, people call me both.
Well anyways about 41/2-5 years go by and my best friend Rachel and I started hanging out with people that we hung out with back in the day and at this time I’m 21 yrs old and able to actually go out like really go out u know.
So the people we started hanging out with and do stuff with were still older than us and they were all really good friends with Bubba they kept in touch with him and what not.
He says that we met inside the house and after that we stayed outside just me and him talking the entire time and we had a fun time just talking and he today tells me that from that night on he had to have me that he had to make me his, well, he didn’t quite make that happen.
I guess I just wasn’t interested at the time or it just wasn’t time for us to happen yet you know.
I would get a phone call sometimes in the beginning and then instead of a phone call I would get a My Space message ever so often and then a My Space message like once a year not really saying much just “Hey, how u doing? He says that I never would write back but I’m sure I did.
About 4 1/2 – 5 years pass and through out those years I thought about him sometimes like wondering where he’s at, what’s he doing, if there could have actually been something between us, but I never dwelled on anything I blamed it on being bored on My Space looking at people’s profile lol.
But there was one time I went to see him at a friend’s place he was at and had called me to come over and I was SO nervous I dragged one of my friends with me and when we got there I think I may had said 2 whole words to him the whole time. that’s one thing bubba and I can do is talk and talk and talk.
But when it came to face to face talking I would chicken out get real shy I dunno why though, but then soon after that he moved up to South Carolina with his parents and really one of the last times we talked on the phone he wanted me to come up to one of the beaches up there for spring break with all his friends but I declined.
Curious as to what I was in for, and wanting some solid guidance, I went looking for advice on how to be a good Army girlfriend. However, in my own time as an Army girlfriend, I’ve come upon a few revelations of my own. Dating a soldier is a commitment, and not one to be taken lightly. Above all, talk to people who’ve lived it and ask them to be honest. If you’re not ready for to be an Army girlfriend and all that it entails, break it off. As soon as my guy used the g-word, I hit the keyboard and called my sister-in-law (retired Army wife extraordinaire). Soldiers work long hours that they have absolutely no control over. If you’re one of those girls who always needs a guy on her arm, get used to disappointment. You’ll have time for your friends, family, hobbies and work. And odds are, one of the reasons his time with you means so much to him is because it’s one of the few times he can get away from that life. My boyfriend and I have plenty to talk about, from video games to the funny cashier at the grocery store, and I never bring up the Army to any extent greater than asking him how his day went. If your man is ready to introduce you to the guys in his unit and/or regiment, it’s a big step.
What follows is some humble advice on how to cope with being the significant other of soldier. If you and your soldier are ready to enter a relationship, make sure you know exactly what you’re getting into. Both gave me a wealth of knowledge I otherwise would not have had. The time he has for you will be dictated by someone else entirely. Concentrate on these, and appreciate the time he’s allowed to have with you. And when he does let me in on the other things, I try to listen and not pry. Men who are stationed together are often closer than brothers. Don’t cling to your man like a backpack, and don’t emasculate him in front of his guys.
He was an ass, didn’t say anything, he said what up then turned back around to face Kalea, so I continued to walk in and was like what a asshole and never thought about him until like 2 years later.