The best thing to do is to act like you have some experience, and not question anything.
I think back to the advice my dad once gave my sisters and me when he snuck us onto the "premium members only" tennis courts at this fancy resort at the beach.
There are so many incorrect things I could say, from weak to gross to just downright bizarre. Honestly, sometimes a woman's anger does look hormonal.
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No longer was I trying to rationalize moves that women made that got me into crazy analysis cycles.
We hate when you try too hard to be one of the guys. My solution is to try to get a place by the beach and do it out on the porch where you can see and hear the waves: Sex at the beach, but not on the beach. Sometimes, I just act like they have no chance, even though I might like them.
It's pretty lame that my buddies and I invent words and languages and then giggle over them like schoolchildren. I openly flirt with other girls in front of them, and talk about how hot other girls are in front of them.
But what's even lamer: when some outsider tries to use the language, without the ability to contribute. My friends and I would discuss how she was trying to speak like us, and it got to the point where I bristled every time I heard her speak one of our made-up words. Make sure you cater what you wear to what you're doing. I make myself look really picky and difficult to get to.
I try not to make a girl walk too much if she's in heels. The sea is very romantic, but I would be too nervous the entire time. While walking in the ocean I've stepped on some unidentified crustaceous creatures and we've both scuttled along away from one another in fear. Then, I get really tender and give all of my attention to this girl who thought she had no chance.I think the old adage "Girls mature faster than boys" comes into play here.Commitment is a sign of maturity, and it just takes some of us longer. I know if a girl seems unsure of herself in bed, it gets distracting and starts to feel awkward.But if the baggage becomes apparent too early in the relationship, then a guy will probably bail.Also, baggage causes people to put pressure on or damage a relationship, so it may be doomed from the outset. Commitment means that I've decided that the woman I'm settling down with is perfect and there is no one else out there for me.While we played, security goons watched closely, and my dad could tell that we were nervous: "Just act like you are supposed to be here, and they won't ask any questions." Sure enough, it worked. Once I've made it into bed with a girl, no way I'm going to let my stupid mouth wreck things.