Another friend is about to marry the short, bald banker with absolutely no ‘online dating’ message-type chat she met at a party.
As a 5ft 9in glamorous cocktail type who says she hates bankers, she freely admits she’d have swiped right past him on Tinder or blocked him on Match – and he may well have done the same.
A one step Facebook log-in process leads on to a few simple questions (the most obvious – height, kids, whether you drink or smoke), a description and a photo – then you are in. To use the site fully – sending unlimited messages to other members – payment is required.
Some find this a barrier to join, fans say it weeds out the casual chancer from those truly looking for love – and means you don’t have to wait to broach tricky topics.
Pricier – it’s £44.95 for a month, but that drops to £12.95 per month if you sign up for a year.
Pros: Free to join and to have limited contact with members.
You can connect with Facebook so getting started is much quicker than with other sites.
e Harmony is another massive player, with 3 million users signed up.
But size isn’t everything – as anyone who has just wrapped up a three-hour swiping session on Tinder will attest.It seems unavoidable that if we have filters and tick-boxes for features and likes or dislikes, we could be cutting off literally thousands of potential suitors because of something we might have thought minor or irrelevant if we met in the flesh.And, by the way, the tick-box that chooses whether you’re shown people with children or not can have an even more dramatic result, with 90% of the people I asked (a straw poll of 10 in the office) saying they’d chosen not to be shown people with children.The price and process mean only the dedicated remain – but equally, can lead to people dropping out mid-process.Controversy swirled in 2010 around its lack of same-sex matching resulting in a site launched later for gay and bisexual daters called Compatible Partners, but e Harmony now offers matching for both mixed and same sex couples from the main homepage.Cons: The lengthy survey you must complete before you sign up.