It’s up to you as a church, as a pastor to get them connected to the whole body of Christ.It’s up to you to get to know and build a relationship with them. Because I am single, I have had a front row experience of how churches are reaching and growing singles adults.
You have to learn how to keep your ministry going by growing leaders, expecting turnover, and change. I need to just focus on the traditional families like mine.
I know it so much easier to just focus on what you know versus what you don’t know. I have never been married nor have children, yet I continue to have them cross my path as I lead singles. You build a team, a staff, and/or hire a pastor or director that does care and understands single adults. I realize hiring a pastor or director does cost money.
Single adults range from the 18 year old that still lives at home to the 29 year old single parent who has never been married to the divorced dad with grown kids to the 58 never married now taking care of their mom to the 68 widower who lives alone. 1) Look at your existing membership/attendance rolls and see who is not married.
It’s not that you don’t have single adults in your church or community; it’s how to reach them. Categorize by age, past marital status, if they have kids that live at home or grown, etc.
2) Contact your town/city and find out the demographics of those living within a 5 mile radius.
Once you find out this information, it will help you in the direction of how to reach them.
Beside myself there are a ton of other great teachers, speakers, authors and pastors who are ready to help you as well.
You can also call me at 919.434.3611 for help or attend one of my leadership retreats/conferences geared toward pastors, staff and leaders.
The same way it would be for any ministry in your church that may meet someone’s emotional and physical needs first. I lead the largest single adult leadership ministry in the country.