(aka domination and submission) with a willing partner.Sometimes they don’t know what questions to ask or where to begin.Consider that if you’re going to spend so much of your life dealing with various aspects of authority, you might as well take the time to explore and understand this aspect of reality more thoroughly. I understand the reasons for keeping this part of your life a secret, but if you do that, I think it will be very difficult to find a good partner, unless you already have access to a D/s-friendly community of some kind.
That kind of attitude will only slow your growth to a crawl.
It’s more intelligent to accept your desires and explore them openly, unless you happen to live in a closed society where the social consequences of doing so would be severe.
All you really need to do, after all, is to start inviting people to play with you, and also let people know you’re interested in receiving such invitations. But if you pre-reject yourself for having such desires, then of course you won’t take these actions, and you’ll be denied a lot of fun, learning, and growth.
Physically speaking, these aren’t complicated actions. If you simply invite enough people, and if you invite invitations by being more open and less secretive, the chances are good that you’ll find at least one quality match sooner or later. Ok, that’s two words, but in my experience and that of many readers, trying to convince someone to become interested in D/s play is like pulling teeth. I wouldn’t bother trying to convince someone to try D/s if they’re hesitant or resistant because the overall experience will suck for all involved.
The truth is that most people are already into D/s. How many people automatically obey traffic laws when driving, without even thinking about it? You can always look for a group on meetup.com, go to one meeting, and see if you like it.
They just don’t label it as such, and they treat it as a serious pursuit rather than doing it for fun. How many people go to work each day and obey someone else’s commands? So recognize that D/s itself is already immensely popular. But if people can enslave themselves to a company for pay, and if they can obey laws and social rules whenever they go outside, then surely there are people who’d enjoy exploring this popular mode of social interaction for fun, learning, and growth. Chances are you’ve already met someone who’d be interested in exploring D/s play with you, if only that person knew about your interest.
So this article is specifically for such people who’d like a gentle introduction to D/s play and some tips to get started.
I think this can be especially helpful for people who don’t consider themselves kinky but who’d still like to indulge in the stimulating fun of D/s play to spice up their connections.
Another key benefit is being able to explore your desires more deeply than you otherwise would.
Through D/s play you can dive deeper into your existing desires, and you can experiment to discover hidden desires you never knew were there.
D/s play is totally free, requires no props or equipment, and can be done anywhere. The main benefit is that D/s play helps maintain and even increase the sexual and emotional intensity of a relationship connection.