This may seem harsh, but online dating can be a very shallow world.
Creating a great online dating profile is more than just saying who you are and what your romantic desires are — there’s also some science to it.
Research done by Plenty of Fish says women who found a relationship through online dating used the word “relationship” and similar words 16% more often in their profiles than women who didn’t.
Instead, let's change the phrasing above to, "When I'm not out with my friends on a Friday night, I love curling up under the covers and watching a scary movie (any suggestions? Many men and women unintentionally use language that displays a lack of confidence.
)." In this revised statement, I have turned a cliché into a statement that has personality, flirts with the reader, provides bait and discusses the type of movies that I am specifically into. For example, writing that "I really to meet a man who is smart, fun and handsome," doesn't sound terrible, but the word "hope" implies that you are the one chasing and "hoping" things will turn out OK.
It subconsciously creates the image of a woman who has not had the best of luck with men in the past.
By changing this statement to, "the perfect man for me is smart, fun and handsome," the perception completely changes.
This subtle change portrays the image of a woman who is confident, in control and knows what she wants. It is a huge mistake to create a massive list of turnoffs, deal-breakers and qualities that you are looking for in a partner.
Stick to language that shows high levels of confidence whenever possible. While you may think this is a productive way to ward off unwanted suitors, all it does is make men think that you are a negative person and possibly jaded by one too many bad dates.
But that doesn't mean you don't have control over your fate. In this post, I am going to teach you a few steps to help make this happen. I hate to start this list on a shallow note, but no matter how amazing the written portion of your profile is, if the pictures are not up to par, the majority of men will never even read it. This doesn't mean you have to be above-average in the looks department. Make a calculated effort to post pictures that are both flattering to your particular look while also revealing the best aspects of your personality. They know they have to be interesting to get a response, but thinking of something interesting to say every single time they message a woman is very difficult. However, let's suppose you change this statement to, "I'm always up for a night of camping out under the stars (don't forget to ask me about the time I was almost attacked by a bear!