Affectionate words go a long way for many, especially Feelers, who need verbal encouragement to feel good about the relationship.
So grit your teeth and whisper those sweet nothings if you want your partner to know that you care.
As we are repeatedly shot down, we come to recognize that celebrations are, in fact, relevant to the rest of the world. Rather than falling head over heels for the nearest warm body, we construct a well-defined image of our ideal partner, break the dating process down into a series of actionable milestones, then proceed to execute the plan with laser-sharp focus. Partners and dates want to know they are attractive, respected and loved for who they are without all the wrangling, controlling and mind games.
We can be so matter-of-fact and hard-headed that it's difficult to imagine us doing something as frivolous as falling in love. We know that we're pretty darned outstanding as relationship material, just too awkward to play the dating game. INTJs inhabit a world that resembles Downton Abbey - cold on the outside, but there's always something spicy percolating beneath.
Problem is, we have not yet developed any sort of vocabulary to describe what's going on in our hearts.
INTJ's score high on the Judging scale, which means they like to have things decided.
However, this only occurs when we've made up our minds.
INTJ's are not known for placing a lot of emphasis on romance.
We embody the suppression of emotion, not the expression of it. Here are some tips to help the socially-challenged INTJ navigate the turbulent waters of romance, whatever the status of their relationship.But if the conversation naturally veers off at a tangent and throws up all sorts of delicious morsels, then you've probably struck gold.And you didn't even ask your date about their life goals.If not, the INTJ will waste no time on further courtship. And by big, I mean the sort of complex, probing, no-stone-left-unturned questions you get asked at an interview.We think we are nailing down our date's personality and suitability this way. Ask your date what kind of music they like (movies, books, food.) Everyone has an opinion on these subjects.Until then, we are flexible and open to new information.